The first day of May, often referred to as “May Day,” is a rite of spring celebrated in many cultures worldwide. More locally, however, this significant date is known as “Decision Day” for high schoolers enrolling in universities in the fall. This is because nearly all colleges and universities in the US require students to submit a Statement of Intent to Register (SIR) by this deadline to finalize their incoming freshman classes.
Submitting your SIR, however, may be easier said than done. Take Emma’s story as an example.
It was a beautiful early spring night after a day of school when Emma decided to check her email for news. To her amazement, she had multiple college acceptance letters in her inbox! The first in her family to finish her education, Emma was a first-generation college student from the Midwest, and she had dedicated herself entirely to schoolwork and after-school activities to fulfill her goal of attending a university. Now having to choose between three equally appealing options — an Ivy League school on the East Coast, a full scholarship to the school she attended in-state, and a special program at a mid-sized school on the opposite coast — Emma was faced with the exciting but challenging task of deciding to which school she would commit.
Sound familiar? As with Emma, thousands of students are at this point every spring. All that work and time over the years have earned them a spot in universities across the country, each offering its range of opportunities and gateways to an exciting future. To receive more than one offer of admission is a truly outstanding achievement. It also poses a difficult choice: how do I decide which college is better for me?
Today, we’re presenting 10 must-do tips to help you decide between several college offers confidently and clearly. These vary in strategy, all aimed at helping you decide on the ideal college offer for you.
Are you ready? Let’s get started!
Tip 1: Come with an open mind
Our first tip for starting the process of deciding which college to attend is to approach the entire situation with an open mind. While you may have initially chosen a university at the top of your list when you first applied, you might have changed your mind by the time acceptances roll around. Be sure to ask yourself these questions to help get your sorted:
- What are my goals and dreams of being in college?
- What do I want to get out of my college experience in general?
- What are the essential things I need to feel comfortable and at my best?
- How bad do I want to move away from home (or stay close by)?
- If I could have my dream college experience, what would it be like?
You can write down your answers, or talk through them with a trusted adult. These are the questions that will assist you in determining what is most important to you at this time in your college and personal life. Your number-one college options can remain the same as they have always been, or a surprise choice can become the top option after considering it.
For instance, you may have always envisioned attending a large, highly esteemed university; yet, upon reflection of your own goals and the specific benefits of a smaller, specialized program, you may recognize that it is the best fit for you.
Tip 2: List the pros and cons of each university
Another essential step in the process is to list the pros and cons of each in front of you. We all have our short list of must-haves and I-don’t-wants, especially when it comes to where we want to live, work, and exist while in college. Taking the time to figure out what those are for each university you have acceptances for will help you narrow down your choices further!
For instance, is there a particular university that has a stronger program for your major? What about the location; are you more drawn to a specific campus that suits you as a student and as a person? What about the facilities and amenities? Do you need a nice and spacious library, or are you more drawn to having a large and cool gym? Create yourself a side-by-side comparison based on the criteria that are most important to you, and then list out what is better or worse for each university.
Try making a visual chart, or organize your pros and cons with a decision matrix format. If you’re not feeling particularly confident about making this list, remember that you don’t have to tackle this alone. Seek advice from trustworthy adults or mentors! They likely have either experienced this process themselves, assisted someone they know with it, or possess a wealth of life experience they can draw upon to offer a different perspective. This can help you think about things in new ways or reveal options you might not have considered on your own!
Tip 3: Line up financial aid offers
Our third recommendation may not be the most exciting, but it’s a reality: financial aid. Be honest with yourself about long-term debt — will it impact your grad school, travel, or post-college plans? College is an investment, and when you’re selecting which college to go to, we recommend comparing your financial aid packages side-by-side to determine which university offers the best bang for your buck. Not only tuition and fees, of course, but all other costs you may pay with university living.
Direct college costs comparison
| Cost category | University A | University B | University C |
| Tuition & fees | $ | $ | $ |
| Room & board | $ | $ | $ |
| Books & supplies (estimated) | $ | $ | $ |
| Additional costs (e.g., dorm fees, transportation, off-campus meals, activities, etc.) | $ | $ | $ |
| Total direct costs | $ | $ | $ |
Financial aid comparison
| Aid type | University A | University B | University C |
| Gift aid (doesn’t need repayment) | |||
| Merit scholarships | $ | $ | $ |
| Need-based grants | $ | $ | $ |
| Outside scholarships | $ | $ | $ |
| Self-help aid | |||
| Federal work-study | $ | $ | $ |
| Federal direct loans | $ | $ | $ |
| Total financial aid | $ | $ | $ |
Net cost calculation
| Calculation | University A | University B | University C |
| Total direct costs | $ | $ | $ |
| Minus total gift aid | $ | $ | $ |
| Net cost before loans | $ | $ | $ |
| Minus loans | $ | $ | $ |
| Immediate out-of-pocket cost | $ | $ | $ |
Pro Tip: Call the financial aid office if you’re unsure or need clarification. They’re here to help students from all backgrounds, majors, and financial situations understand their financial aid awards and maximize the benefits of their financial resources at the university!
Tip 4: Think about yourself attending each school
When crafting and sending in your applications, it may be easy to lose sight of what it might be like to be a student at the university. Being able to visualize yourself as a student at the school can clear up a lot of thoughts you might have around whether the campus or student life will be the right fit for you.
Take a moment to close your eyes (you can try it now if you’d like) and imagine yourself walking around the campus like a true student at that particular university. Think about a perfect day of attending each school in your mind, considering all the different activities you’d like to be a part of, what it might feel like to study in the library or the university union, and what dorm life could be like!
Now open your eyes. What did you come up with? Take a moment to write down your thoughts for each school and weigh your options. Was there one that evoked stronger mental and emotional feelings? Was there one you just couldn’t see yourself attending as much? These are great ways to help you understand your genuine thoughts and feelings about the schools before you commit to any of them, and even better, without leaving your room!
Tip 5: If you have time, try to experience the university yourself
There is nothing like visiting a university in person to get a sense of what your university life might look like! Brochures and online tours help provide those “this is home” experiences that can really narrow down some final decisions.
If you can, attend an Admitted Students Day or an Accepted Students Weekend. These days or weekends are filled with activities specifically for admitted students like yourself, including special campus tours, taste-of-class, residence hall overnight stays, and the time to meet with current students and faculty in your area of study or major. Check out what kind of support systems exist on campus—like counseling centers, peer mentorship, or cultural affinity groups. If you’re shy or unsure about asking questions, even just watching student interactions can tell you a lot!
Here’s an example of an admitted students day for San Diego State University:
If you can attend your top-choice schools in person, here are some ways to maximize your campus visit:
- Take a detour from the official tour route to experience what student life is really like on a typical day
- Eat in the dining hall and try the food
- If possible, try to talk to current students
- Tour the particular facilities that are of interest to you (labs, studios, athletic facilities)
- Walk around the neighborhood to get a feel for the community beyond campus
Can’t Come in Person? Don’t panic! Most universities now offer immersive virtual experiences:
- Schedule virtual appointments with current students or professors
- Join virtual info sessions and Q&A panels
- Take guided virtual campus tours with live student hosts
- Join online admitted student communities to meet possible classmates
- Watch the university’s social media channels to glimpse actual campus life
Remember, you’re here to get real answers to the question of whether you see yourself being happy and succeeding in this environment for the next four years. Be sure to note any gut feelings as you become familiar with both campuses—sometimes you get a sense that you just know you’re in the right place.
Tip 6: Give yourself time to think
You may be eager to commit to a university, but it’s key not to rush your decision. This university will serve as your home, classroom, and community for the next four or more years of your life, and it will also be a significant financial investment in your future.
Like any major decision you face, we recommend creating a reflection plan to help bring clarity to the decision and give you a chance to think honestly. Here are some ways to do it:
- Set aside committed “decision time” in your daily schedule—perhaps 30 minutes every other day
- Designate a quiet, distraction-free area where you can think
- Keep a college decision journal to write down your evolving thoughts and feelings
- Record a voice memo sharing your thought process
- Write a “pros and cons” letter to your future self
- Talk to a college mentor or recent alum about your choices
- Get away from agonizing over your choice to clear your mind
Listen to Your Inner Voice
Recall Emma at the beginning? She was initially drawn to the Ivy League option as her top choice of school. However, after considering her plans, she decided that the specialized degree program was better aligned with her own goals and learning style. By giving herself time to listen to her instincts, she was able to determine what she needed most and make a judgment based on her intuition and intellect, rather than being driven as much by prestige.
Tip 7: Consider your long-term goals
College is going to shape the next four years of your life and will likely shape a lot of your future, directly or indirectly. Knowing this, it’s a great time to consider your long-term goals, both as a student, a professional, and personally. Think about these things:
- What do you want to get out of your college experience?
- Where do you see your life going?
- How do you hope to use what you learn from your significant life experiences to begin your life post-college?
- What real-world opportunities and connections does each school offer?
Tip 8: Don’t guilt yourself
It’s easy to compare yourself to others, especially online. The stress of choosing between college offers can lead to feelings of overwhelm, like fear of picking the “wrong” one, guilt about disappointing others, or missing out. We’re here to remind you: there is no ideal choice, only the right one for YOU. Remember, your path is unique and valid.
Here are some thoughts to try to let go of:
- Prestigious name recognition vs. program fit
- Family expectations vs. personal preferences
- Financial considerations vs. dream school aspirations
- Following friends vs. charting your path
Although every college is different with its pros and cons, the key thing to remember is that your college life is what you make of it! You will grow over time, and as you adjust to college life, you will know the best things that fit you. You will find clubs that work for you (possibly even ones that schools elsewhere do not offer), friends you will love, and memories that will last a lifetime. Remember, college is likely to be your first experience with independent living, managing your own time, and being on your own without your parents’ supervision. While it will be a weighty burden, finding the proper balance for yourself will have you dancing from the chandeliers no matter where you settle.
Tip 9: Be proud of your accomplishments
We know what it takes to achieve admission to any university. You navigated the choppy waters of high school, which likely often felt like facing Mt. Everest. In fact, you overcame challenges, defeated obstacles, and conquered exams, extracurriculars, and any challenge that came your way. You put your everything into making these four or more years lead up to this very moment, and you should feel so proud of yourself.
Your dedication and showing up for yourself have not gone unnoticed, and we’re so happy to see you at the summit! Celebrate your success. Be sure to pat yourself on the back, buy yourself a well-deserved treat, because you really did that, and we’re so proud of you. Whether it’s your favorite dessert, a night out with friends, or a shoutout on social media, it’s okay to own this milestone.
Tip 10: Get excited for your future!
Your journey is only beginning! College is a pivotal moment for any student on their educational and personal development journey, and it’s something to get excited about. You’re going to learn so much and discover endless new things about yourself—new hobbies, study skills, and personal accomplishments, and you’re going to be a better, stronger person on the other side. Start looking up what orientation, mentorship, or first-year success programs your school offers; you’re not going into this alone.
Whether you have many goals for your time in college already lined up and ready to be tackled, or are just looking forward to taking in everything that might find its way to you, this opportunity is going to lead to so many wonderful things for your future. So get excited, feel the rush of joy, and look forward to all of the possibilities that await you!
Need more help deciding between your college offers?
Still undecided about which college to attend? You’re not alone. Empowerly provides you and students like you with guidance through these challenging decisions, offering clarity and confidence. We’re serious; our team spends on average 25x more time with students than the average high school counselor. That personalized support extends beyond comparing acceptance letters; we assist you in navigating financial aid packages, developing a plan to maximize your experience, and aligning your college choice with your unique goals and aspirations.
Not to mention, the transition to college life! Finding the right mentor and role model is so important at this pivotal stage for both students and families. Empowerly can take this stress off your shoulders.
Ready to choose with confidence? Schedule a consultation with our team and let’s chart your course ahead. Your dream college experience awaits, and we’re here to help you take hold of it!
